Grieving Process of COVID-19
April 18, 2020, 11:00 AM

I think the sadness has kicked in this week. Honestly as a pastor I adjusted and worked my way through Easter and Easter was sad for me and my family as we missed our church family. This week it really hit, the schedule of schooling with kids, still recording sermons to a people-less room, adjusting for my child’s Birthday party, and so on. I have an undergrad in Social work and I keep thinking this whole thing feels like stages of grieving. As I listen to the country and people wanting to get back to normal, I wonder if we are bargaining. 


Stages of Grief 

Denial – Did we not do this as we hesitated to prepare for what we were hearing from other parts of the country? And Italy? 

Then we settled in and did safer at home. 


Anger – Did we do this on our way to Easter? While walking to the cross I know some of my clergy friends and I admitted frustration in not being able to do what we had done for Holy week. 

Then we settled in and adjusted to communion at home. 


Bargaining – Have we not been doing this the whole time? As the instruction came out to stay at home did we bargain with what that really meant and how we can get around it? Like Lowe’s having a sale day this spring called Spring’s Black Friday because if we are to be at home we might as well do yard work. 


Depression – Have we not been sad about what we are missing? Family visits? Work friends? Community worship? This is a tricky one but I think as some point this Covid experience has saddened us as we see the death tolls and we seek to live into isolation. 


Acceptance – How are we accepting this? What does that mean to live into this new situation? How do we accept that the world we had lived into is now different and how do we live into it and not loose our core values? As I am writing this I think about the three simple rules from John Wesley. 1. Do no harm. 2. Do good. 3. Stay in Love with God. 


We may have a hard time accepting the changes but could we accept the changes and still continue to do good? God does not change. 


Isaiah 40: 28 (NET) 

Do you not know?

Have you not heard?

The Lord is an eternal God,

the Creator of the whole earth.

He does not get tired or weary;

there is no limit to his wisdom.